“I was never going to go if I waited for someone to come with me” How many times have you heard this quote? How many times have you wanted to do something, but the person was unavailable or couldn’t afford it?
I guess I had the wanderlust gene since my early 30’s, but it didn’t manifest until now. I remember after getting my dream job and accumulating two weeks of vacation; I wanted to go somewhere outside of the United States and explore. I remember asking a couple of friends to join me and they were basically noncommittal. I finally decided to plan my trip. I turned in my frequent flyer miles, hotel reward points, and booked a trip to Rome, Italy for 8 days. As soon it was done, my best friend at the time told me that “women should never travel alone”. I then said, why don’t you come along and I quote “I can’t leave my husband”. I didn’t have a husband and the option of staying home was not an option.
Fast forward 12 years later, I ended up having two traditions. Traveling outside of the country for my birthday (August) and celebrating the New Year. I started my tradition of celebrating the New Year outside of the U.S. especially Miami because it was typically the same thing. I wanted to do something different. For the first two years, a friend would come along. This year was different. I had several friends who wanted to celebrate the New Year. So, I created an itinerary and emailed it to about ten (10) friends who were interested. I ended up with one. However, it didn’t work out. The trip was canceled. I then ended up planning a whole new itinerary with another friend. That did not pan out as well and it was canceled.
Obviously, I was disappointed; however, I made the decision if I waited for someone to go with me, I would never go anywhere. I did some research and scheduled my Christmas and New Year’s trip a week later.
Basically, you have to do what makes you happy. Your friends and family path may not be your path, but it doesn’t mean you can’t walk your own path solo. Just go and experience that adventure.